Inspired by Matt Bunke, one of our wonderful Anthology authors, this week’s coaching tip is on the theme of heroism.
In the Anthology, Matt shares his permission story of rising above a bully and setting an example for his son by being an authentic hero.
This led to me thinking about being there for ourselves too. What if you could be your own hero? What would that enable you to feel better about or to do?
Here are 3 ideas that might help.
1. Saying yes
How often do you turn down offers of fun or offers of help? If you were advising a friend or family member, I bet you would tell them to accept help when they need it, or to have fun when they can – life is short, after all!
So why don’t we take our own advice? Often it is guilt or a sense of societal pressure to be everything to everyone else. But what about you?
We all know the analogy of the airplane passengers – you need to put on your own oxygen mask first or you are not going to be able to help anybody else.
Say yes to the oxygen mask!
2. Saying no
And in the other corner – saying no to things that won’t bring you joy or make your life easier. So often we take requests for help from others, without really considering if we have the time or resources to pile even more onto our plates.
When we over-promise we can become resentful, stressed, or both. Sometimes it is kinder to both parties to be honest about how much time or energy we really have to give.
3. Wearing a cape
Okay, I’m kidding of course! The third point I want to make is that being heroic isn’t always about running into a burning building. Sometimes it is about being authentic, saying what you mean and owning it.
It is absolutely possible to say no in a gentle way. Being honest, open and authentic is a great example to the others around you. So lead by example, be your own hero, and show others how to be their own hero too.